A sudden truth

It just hit me all of a sudden, and I don’t know why I never thought of it before.

I was watching 20/20 from Friday, and the entire show was about gender myths and facts. One segment of the show talked about how little girls play as compared to little boys. And I felt like I had been smacked with a 2×4 upside the head.

The Munchkin doesn’t have any regular girl playmates.

I ran a quick checklist in my head – obviously, Tad is the one she spends the most time with, but he’s her brother. The Brain and Head – both boys. At church, she spends the most time with L., our youth pastor’s son, who is in her Sunday School class and who will most likely be in her grade as they get older. Her age group at church is very boy-heavy, and sometimes she is the only girl in the room. There has been another little girl showing up, but they’re pretty new and I’m not sure who she is. The girl closest in age to her, M., hasn’t been there since the summer, which is sad, because she and the Munchkin got along well. I’m tempted to call and see if they could have a play date or something.

But the fact had been staring me in the face for quite a while, and I just hadn’t considered it.

In the group o’ friends, the girls are heavily outnumbered, 6 to 2 (at least, until we find out what Handy Girl is having!!!). Princess Em is the only other girl, and she is older than the Munchkin; regardless, the two girls don’t see each other that often for them to feel connected.

Both of the Munchkin’s first cousins are girls, and they are both live out of state, which is a shame, because I really think as they get older, Little Cousin and the Munchkin could be very good friends, since they are 17 months apart in age and family.

But the bottom line is, the Munchkin needs to play with some other little girls her age. And I need to find some. I don’t think that she’s lonely, because she never acts like she is. But I truly think that she would enjoy having another little girl to play with sometimes – someone who would like to play with the dollhouse with her, instead of her brother running off with a piece of furniture in his mouth. I know that she strongly identifies with me, because she realizes that she is like Mommy, and we have a special bond. But she needs to find some friends her age, or close to it, who she can be a girl with, instead of a tomboy.

So, anyone out there up for a play date?

3 Responses to “A sudden truth”

  1. Little Cousin's Mommy
    October 2nd, 2006 06:51

    Here’s what you do: Go to the mall and scope out moms that look like you could get hooked on stamps. Next, see if any of them have a little girl the Munchkin’s age. Third, encourage (or tell) Munchkin to go play with said little girl. Then, after the girls have played for a little while, go up to the mom and say, “You have a sweet little girl, blah, blah, blah. They sure like playing together, blah, blah, blah. I sell stamps, what do you do? Blah, blah, blah.” Play date and business sale in one! 😉

  2. Doc
    October 2nd, 2006 09:30

    Well, we’re doing what we can to help by not cutting Head’s hair. In a few years he should at least look like a girl playmate. 😉

  3. Juliet
    October 2nd, 2006 16:37

    Too bad you aren’t in Virginia. I know at least one ideal candidate…