Party dilemma

I’m sorry that my posting has been so sporadic at the moment. Tad has a lot of doctor appointments, most of them related to his arm, so I’ve been to busy/exhausted/distracted to post. I promise to write about some of his medical issues in more detail later.

But, I leave you with a dilemma I’ve been presented with, which I will gladly take advice on. We have been invited to 2 different birthday parties next weekend. They both start at the same time and neither of them is an open house, so we will have to choose one and only one to attend.

Party #1 – Ane has a “best friend” at church named Lina. Lina is only a few months younger than Ane, so they get along very well. Lina has a younger brother, Denny, who is two weeks younger than Tad. It is Denny’s 2nd birthday party that we have been invited to. It’s being held at the kids’ favorite park, just a couple miles from home.

Party #2 – A friend and former bridesmaid of mine is having her 30th birthday party at her house. She and her husband have no children (to my knowledge), and I actually haven’t heard from her in two years. I have sent birth announcements and Christmas cards and haven’t heard anything back. She’s never even seen my kids, except in pictures. I’m not sure the kids are welcome at her party. I would like to see her, and the people I used to know who may show up, but I’m feeling kind of weird about it.

What do you think? Opinions go in the comments, please. Have a good weekend and we’ll catch up on Monday!

3 Responses to “Party dilemma”

  1. Little Cousin's Mommy
    August 24th, 2007 11:31

    I think on this one, the kids should win out. You know that both kids will be welcome and have a great time at a two-year-old party, plus it’s at a park you all are familiar with so the kids will know your boundaries.

    It’s nice to hear from Bridesmaid, but two years then “come celebrate me!” is kind of lame. Use this opportunity to re-open communication (via email/calling to let her know you can’t come) and get the scoop on what’s going on with her, but know that trying to reestablish contact might not go anywhere.

    I empathize on the weirdness factor. I reestablished contact with a high school friend, after no contact in three and a half years. I saw her once, and haven’t heard back from her (I have sent pictures and emails) in over a year. She is not married, is a school teacher (so contact during the school year isn’t expected), still lives with her parents, and has no kids. Sometimes we outgrow old friends.

  2. Matthew
    August 24th, 2007 13:05

    I’m going to vote for the kids party too.

    Two years of no contact and you get invited to a party? I don’t think it’s out of line to say your very happy to hear from her but unfortunately you have plans that day.

    Offer to connect with her on another weekend.

    Good luck!

  3. Linda
    August 24th, 2007 14:50

    Ok! This one goes to the Kids!
    Two years is a lot of time…and, Ane and her friend see each other every week! Besides, who wants to sit around with a bunch of stuffy adults when you can run around in a park with fresh air and lots of little ones that need to burn off the sugar and koolaid high!
    Just watch out for Tad’s boo-boo! Nobody needs more of that! Have some kid fun!